My life has been a rollercoaster. Moved to her state and get a job there just for her to cheat on me. She downloaded a dating app a month ago and i didnt think about that i knew the guys that would randomly follow her were coming from somewhere but oh well. I shoulda gone through her phone when the signs were there a month ago. Not when i saw her replace my initials with the dudes and delete everything of me🫤 She plays this game so i have the feeling she might see this.
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1 ReplySeems like she literally wanted you to bend over backward and break an arm and a leg for her and reward you little to nothing. Guarantee you're not the first or the last she'll do dirty. Once you're doing better, she'll crawl up your doorstep in desperation and plead for a 2nd chance when she did it to herself.
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That's rough...but think of it this way if you yourself never betrayed the relationship your hands are clean... it's no fun being taken advantage of... But you get to move on when you're ready to and will have a clear mind and no extra baggage...
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First off, if you feel compelled to go through someone's phone, they're not the one. I know that's a bit of an absolute and yeah, there can be some nuance to it in the sense of this scenario or that scenario, but ultimately, that's a major issue. Second, never move to a completely different place for someone you just started seeing. Doubt she'd do the same for you and why should she, you or anyone else? As a person who has been involved with someone who was cheating on their boyfriend with me, I can almost assure you that it's a her problem, not you, so don't internalize this (easier said than done, I know). Obviously everyone is different, but the person I was involved with for example is just incredibly -blam!-. She even said herself that no matter who she's with and how much that person loves her and treats her right, it's not enough. She's also someone who while being aware of a problem with herself, won't do a damn thing to try and change it. I don't know the sub human who cheated on you, but I'd bet my last dollar she has some underlying issues that need to be worked on. Idk though, maybe I'm completely wrong and it is a you problem 🤷🏽♂️ Go join a gym, pick up a new hobby (gym is not a hobby nor should it become your personality) and focus on yourself. It's trite, it's cliche, but you really should be healed from stuff like this before trying to get in another relationship.
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1 ReplySorry, bro. I know that must really suck. Ngl, it's going to be tough moving on but it gets better over time. You'll meet someone else. Just don't give up.
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2 RepliesWelcome to the club. Let me impart some wisdom that helped me and so many others through what you’re going through in one word. Next.
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3 RepliesDude, I'm sorry, that blows. I wish I had some comfort to offer, but the best I can say is that the right person won't cheat on you, won't hide things from you. It may not feel this way right now, but you dodged a bullet - granted, in a whole new state, but still. Keep your head on your shoulders, this is a moment in your life, not your whole life. This, too, shall pass. [i]hugs[/i]
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4 RepliesThat sucks. But hey, you're in a new state which presents you with the opportunity to make new friends and potentially find a new significant other. Closed door and open window, you know?
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1 Replyhow long were you dating before you moved ? were you dating ? did you both agree you were in a closed relationship ? did you live together ?